Let It Be Valentine’s Day Everyday

What Women Want

Why is it that we only expect romance, one day a year? Romance and connection should happen every day! It’s a known fact, men work on a physical level and women on an emotional one. So why can’t we work together to get the things that we require from a relationship?

Men…Try treating a female like a “lady” and she will do her best to see the real you. You know that funny saying, “a lady for your mother, a teacher and nurturer for your future children and a freak in the bedroom for you”. How do you think that saying came about, because it’s possible; LOL.

Be soft and/or romantic and your lady will return the favor and satisfy you as much as you do her. Remember I said, men respond to physical but women respond to emotional. A happy woman, a woman that feels needed, wanted, loved and appreciated will return your desire ten fold. A true woman, an honest and faithful woman; when happy will basically do anything for the man or woman she loves! She will DO anything or BE anything that you need because as women, we want to connect.

Try new things to get new results! Take the time to get to actually know one another! One day a week, once every two weeks or even one day a month; have a date night, especially if the couple are parents. Try not to get stuck in regular life routines, try not to get stuck in specific roles unless it suites your relationship which I will explain later.

Scenario 1: Let’s say both adults and/or parents work full time jobs and we all know, during the workweek a person likes to relax. So help each other out and split the chores, don’t fall into gender roles. If one is a chef in the kitchen, the other needs to play clean up. If one works an eight hour day but the other works a twelve hour day, guess who wins?! LOL. Like I said, help each other out. When a person is less stressed with everyday mundane things that come with life, a whole new person can open up or immerge. Sorry but let’s be real, life can get depressing, so it benefits both in the relationship to work together.

More communication can get you places, don’t lie; use it. Tell each other what you actually expect or want from a relationship, take the time to actually date or court each other; go old school. Don’t give away the boyfriend/girlfriend title so quickly, take the time to get to know each other before committing. Too many relationships break up because of a lie or an untold truth. People need to stop settling and go after the things that they really want. And most of all, stop using one another! If there isn’t a real future, don’t waste their time; a person that goes ALL in deserves better.

Scenario 2: One works and the other doesn’t, don’t hold either role against the other. If that is the position you’re in, I hope it’s because the both of you sat down and talked about it. Try not to be lazy, it lets depression take over. Get up in the morning and make breakfast for the family or just help them get ready and off to work and/or school. Then breathe, take a shower, fix your hair, put on makeup if your female, pick out a nice outfit and tiddy up the house. If small tasks are completed everyday, large chores never exist.

If the monthly bills are paid and there are no pressing matters, find a hobby; one that lets you express yourself because a connection to yourself helps you to connect with others. If your significant other works long hours, start dinner around the time they get off work depending on travel time; food is always best served hot and fresh. Make sure they don’t come home to a mess, if you were the one working; you wouldn’t want to come home and feel like you couldn’t relax. It’s little things that will touch the heart of your partner and let them know they are important. If they are taking care of you, a relationship is give and take, compromise without insult; take care of them!!

Men…you have to compliment your woman and do it OFTEN! When a woman feels desired, it heightens her emotions and the need to connect with her man. We all know the way to connect with you is physical and even the most prudish woman will open to new possibilities for the one she LOVES.

Scenario 3: If you find yourself wondering about the what if’s or possibly feeling out of touch with your partner; please do not cheat on them, talk to your partner and come up with kinky and exciting ways to cheat with each other. Be creative and stale will be a thing of the past.

Scenario 4: One of my male friends came to me for advice, even though he didn’t know that’s what he was doing; LOL. Men…don’t be so filthy when you’re trying to be dirty, there is a difference. I did say, we as women are emotional. Communication is your friend whether you want to admit it or not but it’s all in how you use it! Remember you want her to play along.

Example: If she responds with, “I’m not one of the whores who used to do whatever you wanted with”. Guess what she’s right, you made her your wife. Something about her touched you enough to propose, you went through with the wedding and married her. You remember why but you let the male, asshole gene, take over; instead you need to learn how to really connect with her. If you want her to fulfill your fantasies, you have to fulfill hers too! It doesn’t matter how often curse words are used, whether one has a potty mouth and the other doesn’t; it’s how you present yourself and the words you choose in the heat of the moment, you’re hoping for.

His example: I texted her an hour ago and asked did she want to fuck when we got home and I got no answer. I bought her an apple watch for Christmas so I know she got my text. My response of course was, try using different words besides “fuck”. Text her “hey gorgeous, slip into something sexy like the tall drink of water I know you are. Cause baby, your husband is thirsty and I’m on my way home.” His reply of course was, “she cusses like a sailor and says that word a hundred times a day.” Its the principle, not the word. I’m trying to help you guys out, LOL. He in turn said, “okay I see your trying to be marriage counselor. I know how to get a girl naked if I want. The problem is I want it in return without initiating it”.

What he didn’t understand is, “relationship counselor” is just part of my personality and he knows that; it’s probably the reason he texted me, of all people to talk to. If you as men want us to initiate situations; we have to feel attractive to you, needed by you, wanted by you and loved by you and we are powerless or/even drunk with love. Women are emotional, hey yeah; one more time :). Cause with his tactic, it was quite apparent when she didn’t answer back, that he didn’t know how to get the girl naked. I meant it when I said it was the principle not the word used, it’s the effort put into it.

It’s the physics of the male/female process or relationship process. When men show us as women; emotion with appreciation, compliments that instill confidence, passion that creates desire, love and understanding can bring out the woman you’re looking for and she may actually appear. When we learn that we actually mean something to you and that we are not just a play thing to pass the time; we can be creative, imaginative, adventurous and/or dominating in the bedroom and believe me there is a difference between every word. I bet if you’re a man reading this, your eyebrows just went up. But fellas, women don’t just show, that most intimate side of themselves to everyone or just anyone unless that connection is present and alive; for women, we call it love. And for love, a woman will do almost anything. 😉

So next time you get scared or purposely mess things up, think “do you want to look back on your life and wonder, who was the one person that treated me the best or the one you most connected with”, when you should have never had to think back in the first place. You could’ve done something that day instead of thinking, “I’ll never be her prince Charming”. No woman really wants a prince Charming, we just want a man that is willing to be a true and honest partner, someone that is willing to stand with us and CARE. No one wants to end up alone but that should never be the reason a person settles. Let it be Valentine’s Day everyday.

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How I Helped My Daughter Get Into College

January 17, 2017

The first website I came across in my google search this afternoon was http://collegeapps.about.com/od/grantsandscholarships/tp/college-scholarships-january.htm titled AboutEducation – College Scholarships with January Deadlines where I found thirty-four possible choices that yes, do not match up completely with Tatyana but may match up to one of your children. There are thirty listed for the month of February and eighty-nine for the month of March. I always try to get at least three months of information at a time because look what happened when Taty took her break; my frustration let me take one too but left her with not a lot of items to work with.

Taty missed out on the Young Patriots Essay Contest, Gates Millennium Scholars Program, The North Carolina Hispanic College Fund, Profile in Courage Essay Contest, Dell Scholars Program, EditRevise Scholarship Essay Contest and Prompt Scholarship Essay Contest which totaled up to $58,500. That’s just for January dates already passed, it’s not counting what was missed since November 20, 2016 when her break started.

The break did give me time to figure out how to make my blog a reality, so the information could be presented to all of you….Yay, finally and I am very pleased to be with wordpress.com.

For my second website, within twenty minutes of being on http://www.fastweb.com/college-scholarships/scholarships I found seven more January Scholarships to add to my list and completed some entries that a mom can make. I registered as a parent and secured her for $10,500 in four sweepstakes scholarships. I mean parents, how easy is that. I will continue to hit these kinds of scholarships up while I get the future deadlines and information in order.

Fastweb connected me to https://colleges.niche.com/scholarships/, http://www.collegeweeklive.com/ , https://www.coursehero.com/scholarships/, https://www.scholarshipowl.com and https://www.scholarshippoints.com/. I hope these links help you, the readers, because I know Taty will appreciate the information they have provided.

Oh, yes it happened again, I forgot to add; essays did NOT get completed. Tatyana had a friend over this long weekend and Victoria ended up sick, so yup you guessed it; Taty did too the following day. I had advised Taty that she owed me some “Get in to College” time on Tuesday before she headed off to work. Yup you read that correctly too, LOL. She has started her first job and you guessed it already too, she found out employment can be stressful. But like I told her, you won’t work there but another year because YOU will be headed to college. So as the nagging mom I have asked, “Baby I know you’re sick but you still need college money, come on sweetheart. Work with me!” The sickness took over and mom got ignored L. This part of having to be the nagging bad guy sucks as a parent! So, I spent my afternoon doing research while she slept and I can’t exactly yell at her because the body heals and works while it’s sleeping.

I know it’s late, like fifteen to midnight but I’m going to wake Taty up and get her to take some more medicine. I will be asking her again tomorrow, well demanding she work on some essays. She has tomorrow off but I do have to work at the restaurant in the afternoon, so wish US luck 🙂 !

In Need of Test Readers

If interested, please feel free to contact me via email or leave a comment. I thank you ahead of time for your attention.

 

Let me introduce you to a new set of heroines in these funny, action packed, historically rich books under the collection, A Vampirik Hunter Series. This series is meant to empower young ladies with strong female lead characters and to reconnect readers to history of all ages.

I envision them to be the size of a Goosebumps book, always fifteen chapters and are about 200 pages or less. The vocabulary is understandable for readers as young as seven years old. Young adults usually don’t choose to read a big thick book, LOL. I bring the premise or new chapter of the series out in chapter fourteen of each book, as an introduction to the next in the collection. There is always a sneak peek into the series at the end of each book to help keep you hooked.

In these books, you see there is no such thing as good vampires! When the soul leaves the body, evil replaces it. I wanted there to be a real distinction between the good and bad characters of my books.

I have three written; Book 1: Helen, Book 2: Lee and Book 3: Rosalee. I am looking for test readers, ages from 9 to 50s. I hopefully geared them toward all age groups but they will be listed as Young Adult Historical/Paranormal Fiction. In the three books completed in this series, there is one kiss and only one cuss word. The main character gives the dirty mouth little boy a vocabulary lesson along with one in etiquette.

The back of Book 1: Helen

In a world of violence and beauty, Helen, an underestimated teenager and vigilante wonders around cleaning up the evil from the streets. As her beautiful memories turn into nightmarish images that loom in her mind of the night that would haunt and control her forever; the night her family was murdered.

This first mini-novel in the series begins in summer of 2001 and ends in December of 2010; taking place in the United States. The main character ends up helping the police with a ton of criminals but her true mission is ridding the world of vampires; her sworn enemy. Helen uses her quick wit, extensive training, and butt-kickin’ boots; along with pencils instead of stakes and with holy squirt guns, she dispatches these foul creatures into piles of dust beneath her feet.

In Helen’s world, vampires are still lost to the ways of creating more, it’s a mystery. A vampire bite almost always results in death, like poisonous venom from a snake. Only a select few know the real reason why they were chosen.

With the help of an Indian Tracker named Snowy Wolf, Helen survived her attack and was given the guidance and training needed to protect herself and the human race around her.

Will Helen ever come face to face with the vampire gang that murdered her family?  Will she ever find a true connection to the outside world again?  Will the secret of how to make more foul creatures be revealed…Will Helen be allowed to fall in love with Jason or will it be bittersweet?

Take a journey and see life through Helen’s eyes as you read the first book of this Young Adult Paranormal Fiction collection.

 

If this sounds interesting to you, please contact me! I am curiously looking for test readers of ALL ages. If you’re an adult, read it and tell your children about it. When you’re finished reading be honest, whether you liked it or you didn’t. Picture telling someone else about why they should or why they shouldn’t read these books. I want honesty, because truthfulness from either aspect will show me whether I should devote myself to find a Literary Agent to bring them to publish.